Tuesday, December 13, 2011

being solitary is being alone well



I've been lost in reverie this week as I recalled that this week last year is when we learned that Leslie's cancer had returned.
It was the last week of school for miss A and a quick flight to San Francisco had turned into a road trip because little miss had an ear infection and couldn't fly. I was staying behind, I had a crap load of work to accomplish and needed the solitude of four days alone.
Those four days sucked donkey balls in case you were wondering. Leslie called with her news and M and A were already on the road. The offer to return was appreciated but I declined. I knew I needed them but I also needed to sit in my pain and I needed to do it alone. Who knew it would be the slow beginning to my breakdown, but hindsight is a opportunity for nothing positive in this instance and so I move on.
In a somewhat non-sequitur, (but it really did coalesce nicely in my mind), today on Relish, the question is,
What a-ha moments did you have during the last 12 months? Maybe it was to do with your health, your work, family life or maybe even your past. When did the lightbulb switch on above your head this year?
Without a doubt, my lightbulb moment was when I decided to retire as an acupuncturist. It's been a month since that decision was finally made and while I'm still adjusting, I find myself happier, lighter and more productive than I've been since we landed here in California.
The happier and lighter doesn't jive this week, but generally speaking, it's the overall feeling of the past four weeks. And I have tangible evidence of said productivity, even while I've been  lost.** 

**The ebb and flow that is grief, the living that is to be done after your loved one has passed is a trip.