I have learned that it's best to think carefully about the words I speak, especially when speaking to those that choose to speak from both sides of their mouth.
I have learned to recognize that justification is strong when someone is sharing secrets that aren't theirs to share.
Being someone's confidante does not assure your own secrets are safe and it is foolish to believe otherwise.
I have learned that the foundation of gossip is insecurity, combined with a need to fit in and belong. Listening to, and engaging in the smack talking is just as egregious, but easier to deflect culpability.
I have learned that when boundaries are necessary, the opportunities to put them in place will continue to appear until it is done, no matter how far you run and/or avoid.
I know, (because I have learned), that we all process information, (good and bad), at our own pace and in our own way. What works for me might work for you, and if it doesn't, there are no strings attached.
That's the key.
I have learned that the foundation of gossip is insecurity, combined with a need to fit in and belong. Listening to, and engaging in the smack talking is just as egregious, but easier to deflect culpability.
I have learned that when boundaries are necessary, the opportunities to put them in place will continue to appear until it is done, no matter how far you run and/or avoid.
I know, (because I have learned), that we all process information, (good and bad), at our own pace and in our own way. What works for me might work for you, and if it doesn't, there are no strings attached.
That's the key.
Yes, yes, yes!
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